I hate them with every fiber of my being.
Ironic, isn’t it?
Bullies are filled with self-loathing and a lack of respect for others and yet, the very thought of someone – of any gender or age – using their strength or power to oppress others sickens me to the core.
We’ve all been bullied at some point; the wounds run deep and can have disastrous consequences. How many young people have taken their own lives in the last few years because they felt completely and utterly alone when faced with the horrors of bullying?
Making their deaths even more tragic is the presence of numerous support systems that keep failing these lost souls.
- Teachers who look the other way. Their courage and compassion shrunken by time and cynicism.
- Principals who refuse to confront parents of bullies. Even though studies have shown bullies are bred rather than self-invented.
- Peers. Understandably, they’re too afraid of becoming the next victim to step forward, but adults need to remind these kids there is strength in numbers.
- Police Officers. You may be laughing, but when we were kids who did our parents tell us to turn to if we got into trouble? That’s right.
There is a lot of attention being paid to this subject right now, as recent suicides have drawn the public and lawmakers into the fray. Everyone wants to help, and so articles are written, news reports are filmed, and both victims and former bullies are speaking out.
But to what end?
Has anything really changed in the last few decades? Bullies are still terrorizing their victims while so many others look the other way. I’ll tell what has changed, though; the method by which bullies strike and their gender. Females have turned to bullying in alarming numbers, and they’re using the most effective social networking method of the last decade to reach the widest audience possible.
Mark Zuckerberg’s creation has become a weapon of mass destruction in the hands of countless male and female bullies. Most parents refuse to monitor their children’s use of this platform, so bullies are free to write whatever they like about anyone.
I don’t know what else to say; I feel exhausted just writing these words that I know will ultimately change nothing. My little blog is adrift on an ocean of rants, viral videos and celebrity gossip websites. People often say, “If I can reach just one person, I’ll have made a difference.”
One person is not nearly enough.
It’s going to take a society of angry, fed-up, heartsick people to reach inward and stop producing generation after generation of frightened children so filled with self-loathing they lash out at their peers instead of their tormenters.
WE HAVE TO STOP LOOKING THE OTHER WAY AND START FACING THE EPIDEMIC OF BULLYING HEAD-ON.
- What are the signs of a “bully-victim”? (education.com)
- Bullying (thepaolite.wordpress.com)
- Low Self-Esteem and Bullying: How are they related? (education.com)